Bullying – Is there more we can do as Parents?

Is there more we should do as Parents?

I had dinner with a friend recently who disclosed that her daughter was being tormented at school, by a long-term friend.  My friend’s approach to the otherParents: don't put your head in the sand about online safety parent, asking if she could have a word with her daughter, unfortunately fell on deaf ears.

Why do we think our sons or daughters would never do anything cruel or unkind?  Perhaps it is natural to protect our own children, and sometimes, of course, there is fault on both sides – but with the right approach, a conversation with our children about the need to treat each other with kindness could transform the life of another child.

So, come on people; as parents we have an opportunity to step in here.  We can acknowledge to our children that their friends can be annoying or not as cool as others, but we should explain that they have a responsibility to treat them with respect and find a non-bullying response to whatever issues they are having.  Such a small step might even stop a bullied child from taking their own life.  Words do hurt and because of the online world we live in, it can feel that there is no hiding place.  I was bullied at secondary school and it was horrible but 20 years ago, at least I could go home and forget.

We must accept that when it comes to friendship issues, not every child is innocent, and it might be our child who is the bully.  If so, we need to understand not only the hurt that they are causing to another and the need to stop it but also why our child might be behaving that way.  Sometimes, taking the time to discuss the problem with the “bully”, why they are behaving that way and the effect they are having, can reveal problems or insecurities in your own child.  You might be able to improve the lives of two children at once!

One of the really important things we can do is to teach our children the skills and confidence to block anyone who is bullying them online.  As parents we need to know how to handle the settings on social media so that we can teach our children how to block unwanted messages.  We also need to reassure them that it is okay to block someone and to help them to be resilient in situations where they are blocked by others.  We need to explain, when you block a user, they are not notified of that action.

As parents, it is our responsibility to guide, it is our responsibility to work together to stop unkind behaviour and help prevent tragic events from happening.

We have got to work harder to stop bullying.  We need to give our children the skills to protect themselves online and take responsibility for any action OUR child might have said or done. Don’t shy away from a conversation with the other parent when a few considerate words might make all the difference.   Schools often get the brunt of this and from my own experiences don’t or aren’t always able to resolve any problems or even take any actions.  We should be taking the appropriate action and making sure the problem does not exist.  Our lives are busy, there is always something else that we need to be doing, but this is a child’s life, and no one should be bullied.

I came across this video over the weekend, which is very powerful.  https://www.facebook.com/Ninecomau/videos/1750109161694755/

Latest Newsletter – March 2018

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A welcome message from Stella

Stella-ImageI would like begin this issue of Gooseberry   News with an apology!  We know that we have   been sending quite a few emails lately and  in future we plan to send less emails.

There is so much going on in the world of   Online Safety and in the news, about the risks   we all face online.  We want to make  sure you have a round up of the most   important and up to date information.

We only have to listen to the news to   find out how Facebook is using our data.  It   still amazes me how people unknowingly choose to give away their personal information to companies.  As users we are making them a fortune with our most precious information.  Some say the easiest solution would be to shut down your online profiles and get on with ‘real-life’, but the reality is, that is unlikely to happen.  Once you have shared your personal information online it’s a bit too late!

In one of my live webinars I talked about changing and managing privacy settings and how we should be teaching children exactly what they are signing up for.  As a teacher, how up to date is your knowledge when it comes to teaching your children about managing their online privacy?   71% of teachers have a Facebook account and it is likely that there is a high percentage that are sharing personal information without realising it.  We just need to look for it.  Our own behaviour can make us more vulnerable online and our accounts easier to hack.  Entering competitions on Facebook and sharing details like our DOB, our cat’s name, our favourite colour, can help those with the intent and ability to build up a picture of who we are.  Some of the basic information we share online can allow others to complete the jigsaw and discover our online passwords and access our private accounts.

It is time for us all to wake up and start protecting ourselves and each other online.

Stella
CEO Gooseberry Planet

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Gooseberry Planet Feedback Corner 

“We are only in the early stages of using this platform, but have already seen a big impact across the school community. The children are engaged by the gamification and are having much more informed discussions regarding e-safety. 

The parent body has welcomed the practical information, as well as the rise in profile for this ever-changing topic, and staff have appreciated the wealth of resources, which are constantly updated”. (Brendan Herron, The British School of Marbella)

Gooseberry Alerts

This month’s Gooseberry Alert focusses on ‘Screen Time’ and questions ‘What’s your limit?’ A great topic to share with ypicture2.pngour parents.  If you haven’t registered for this service already please do.  It is free of charge just click here

Online Safety – Parent Webinar We recently ran a free Online Safety – Parent webinar.  It was a huge success and we had parents from all over the world attending online.

“Thanks so much for the safety seminar this evening – there were many interesting points made (simple yet effective measures to make our kids safer online) but my greatest take-away from the session is awareness. That rather than to simply ban apps, games or websites, talking to your kids and walking through games and content with them is the key. Kids can then be highlighted to possible dangers which you as a parent might well not have aware of beforehand. Planning to sit down and walk through every app with my son at the weekend! Next time I would really appreciate more tips on website content and restrictions. Keep up the excellent work!”

We will be doing the webinars on a regular basis so why not stay in touch for more details and see what else we offer other via our Facebook Page or have a look around our website?

Why not enquire about a Parent Workshop too?
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NEW SERVICECPD ONLINE SAFETY WORKSHOP FOR TEACHERS

We know how hard it is to keep up to date with the latest online trends and as teachers you just don’t have time to do the research.  We also know that you are often called upon to address the problems as a result of issues online.

Our sessions will provide you with the opportunity to reflect upon and question your own knowledge and give you the help and advice you need when talking to Parents and Students.

It is free of charge just sign up here

Events

Stay in touch with any events we might be holding follow this link


CPD Online Safety for Teachers

This webinar is tailored for Teachers and is FREE OF CHARGE!

Stella has become a well-known speaker on the subject of Online Safeguarding and regularly speaks at schools and educational events across the UK.  She is passionate about raising the profile of E-Safety in schools and about engaging and educating the whole school community.  We all have a combined responsibility to protect and prepare children for a life online.  But are we doing enough?

The session will explore and discuss the current threats and vulnerabilities that exist online for everyone. The session will highlight the importance of involving parents in the child’s learning journey and show how Gooseberry Planet can equip teachers with a complete toolkit to effectively and confidently address the subject of E-Safety.

Our informative webinar will cover ALL aspects of online safety, with particular focus on:

  • Managing Privacy Settings
  • Social Media (Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat etc)
  • Live Video
    Streaming
  • Sharing Personal Information
  • Latest Apps to be aware of
  • Online Gaming
  • Monitoring a child’s internet usage
  • Advice for parents

When?
24th April at 4pm

How?
Please register for Online Safety CPD for Teachers ONLY on Apr 24, 2018 4:00 PM BST at:
https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/7490011036727646979
YOU MUST REGISTER WITH A SCHOOL EMAIL

A CPD certificate will be supplied if you attended this webinar.

Parent Online Safety Workshop

We all know how hard it is to keep up to date with what our children are doing online.  If you would like practical and valuable advice on how to protect yourself and your family online, then please join our popular E-safety webinar workshop, hosted by Stella James, CEO and founder of Gooseberry Planet.  This webinar is tailored for parents and is FREE OF CHARGE!

Stella has become a well-known speaker on the subject of Online Safeguarding and regularly speaks at schools and educational events across the UK.  She is passionate about raising the profile of E-Safety in schools and about engaging and educating the whole school community.  Parents and teachers have a combined responsibility to protect and prepare children for a life online.  But are we doing enough?

“Thanks so much for the safety seminar this evening – there were many interesting points made (simple yet effective measures to make our kids safer online) but my greatest take-away from the session is awareness. That rather than to simply ban apps, games or websites, talking to your kids and walking through games and content with them is the key. Kids can then be highlighted to possible dangers which you as a parent might well not have aware of beforehand. Planning to sit down and walk through every app with my son at the weekend! Next time I would really appreciate more tips on website content and restrictions. Keep up the excellent work!”

When?
30th May at 2018 at 8pm

How?
Share this link with your parents, they will need to register and log back on at the time of the webinar.
https://global.gotowebinar.com/ojoin/8461769308535695106/4462419990086278662

Our informative webinar will cover ALL aspects of online safety, with particular focus on:

  • Managing Privacy Settings
  • Social Media (Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat etc)
  • Live Video Streaming
  • Sharing Personal Information
  • Latest Apps to be aware of
  • Online Gaming
  • Monitoring a child’s internet usage
  • Advice for parents

We look forward to joining you then!